Since the world started opening up about mental health more and more people are realising the effects of childhood trauma and turning to therapy for support. Generally when you experience some form of ‘stuckness’ in your life, whether this is in your career, your relationships, finances or passions a good place to start is with a therapist. I had a dime for every time someone said ‘I went to therapy but stopped shortly after because she kept rooting around in my childhood. My childhood was GRAND. I just wanted to feel better now.


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  • Childhood trauma refers to an event, a situation or an environment experienced by a child. One that leaves them feeling vulnerable and unable to count on anyone to keep them safe.
  • The effects of childhood trauma is almost always the cause of ‘stuckness’. The word trauma may seem a bit dramatic but it’s not nearly as dramatic as it is traumatic for the kid who experiences it. 
  • It comes in many shapes and sizes including physical, environmental and emotional. All of which have the capacity to hold great power over a child. Physical trauma includes everything from physical abuse, sexual abuse, the loss of a loved one. It includes changing schools, moving country, living with parents who are always fighting. It’s not getting proper attention from a loved one, or being constantly put down or bullied in school.

The idea that a child won’t be affected by what they experience even if they do not understand it is incorrect.

  • Even if a child doesn’t comprehend exactly what is happening, they can understand danger and discord. This is what causes trauma
  • Research shows that the effects of childhood trauma extend to infants too, so if one of their parents is suffering the child will absorb this trauma too. The fact that a child can’t comprehend it or reason it in their own mind means that they tend to be more affected by trauma than adults as they can sense danger but not ‘explain’ it to themselves like an adult, meaning they feel more terrified and vulnerable.

“Traumatic experiences also have a stronger impact on children when you take into account that children’s brains are still developing and thus more vulnerable than those of adults. Trauma has been found to affect the growth of the brain cortex, which then affects learning, behaviour, and health, including things like memory, attention span, and the capacity to regulate emotions and handle stress.”

  • Not everyone reacts to trauma in the same way. Some people remember all the details of what happened, many blank everything entirely from their mind and lose all memory of the experience. Some people develop symptoms from childhood onwards, and others have no symptoms of trauma but then suddenly, as an adult, something triggers them. This could be a stressful new job, a new relationship, or another life trauma like a bereavement or breakup.
  • If you suffered from childhood trauma, it’s common to suffer from anxiety and depression as an adult until you seek help to uncover and process your experience. Other common mental health problems include addictive behaviour, self-harm, repressed anger or anger management issues, and eating disorders. Sexual abuse, in particular, has been connected to the development of borderline personality disorder.

Some people who experienced childhood trauma also exhibit symptoms of PTSD.

  • Sometimes these symptoms can manifest long after the trauma, although some victims of childhood trauma seem to spend their entire lives with the symptoms of emotional shock. If you think you may have suffered childhood trauma in some capacity it’s advised you speak to a trained professional. Know that it is not your fault. What occurred was way out of your control and it is unfortunate.
  • What is within your control now is your ability to take steps to help yourself. The effects of childhood trauma are not known to magically resolve with time or age, but they do respond positively to attention and support. With the right help and support, you can identify the trauma and begin to process it. Only then can let go of the unhealthy behavioural patterns that no longer serve you.

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Reading Recommendations: 

Running On Empty, Jonice Webb

Childhood Disrupted, Donna Jackson Nakazawa

The Emotionally Absent Mother, Jasmin Lee Cori